Sunday, October 11, 2009

Something Less Than Perfect

Because it’s Sunday evening and I am older and wiser than Friday night, I know now that I set myself up for a fall. It’s the first weekend in months which hasn’t involved a work deadline of some description and with two crafty, family, lovely-weather days ahead, I was ready to jump onto the trampoline and come over all Geoffrey Rush in Shine. Then I remembered that the true spirit of that movie scene involves nudity, except for a trenchcoat and earphones. (In case you haven’t the foggiest what I am going on about, please trust, the scene is all about exuberant joy and nothing to do with sleaze, despite the trenchcoat involvement). Anyway, I don’t own a trenchcoat. But I did own some big expectations. The weekend would be perfect.

Thing is, lots of things were mighty close to perfect. The weather was mostly bliss:



There was a fun, nattery, making-stuff Saturday afternoon spent at Kirsty’s constructing a HAC Multi Tasker with these girls. Which I promptly roadtested Sunday, making bias binding: you can cut! you can iron! you can hold things in place!



We went to the beach, found stuff – slimy stuff (please note: neither human nor echinoderm was hurt in the shooting of this image):



We pottered about, watched ants, pondered dandelion amazingness:



I started a Ruby Doll, crocheted a few granny squares, made Habitual’s Simple Kimono Wrap (but have only these unsatisfying shots because the kid no longer does camera posings):





In theory, it was a perfect weekend. Except life didn’t work like that. Instead it’s been competitive and fractious and fiery and niggly and exhausting and draining and all leftover coughs and ‘notty’ noses and I wish I was just talking about the kids. Now that those anklebiters are in bed and there is quiet, I can see how inevitable this sort of weekend was. There was air to be cleared and conversations to be had – ones that we have been too busy for. No doubt there will be more but now we’re doing a much better job at looking out for each other.

I only wish I’d made Kirsty’s ‘X Marks The Spot’ bookmark before the HAC workshop on Saturday.



I may have had better responses this weekend, had I already read the intriguingly promising next chapter: ‘The Right Answer to Everything’.

33 comments:

A Spoonful Of Sugar said...

Looks like a full on weekend! Love the Kimono wrap - such a pretty and practical design.

staci said...

Love that first sentence of your post about being older and wiser than you were on Friday :)

Thanks for the corner bookmark link...gonna give it a go!

SmitoniusAndSonata said...

Yes , so did I . Excellent , middling and draw a veil . Well , it is 48 hours , after all .

Amanda said...

What a busy weekend..We are in the middle of a 5 day weekend for the kids and 4 day for the hubby..Even with the best intentions it can be exhausting and overwhelming :)...

I need to read that chapter too haha...

Nikki said...

I hope you'll find some quiet time today to relax and ponder - draw out the positives and look forward to a better weekend in 5 days time...?

I hate learning experiences, times of growth anf development... wisdom born of pain and all that.

sue said...

The kimono wrap top looks very sweet, love the polka dot binding. The weather was lovely here too and we got some work done in the garden and some other things too which is always great. I really love that bookmark idea, maybe I will make one for my kids as they read all the time. Hindsight is a wonderful thing too isnt it, sometimes it makes us realise how far we can actually go and how far we have come. Older and definately wiser is always great!

Gina said...

Ahhh, Tania, I love how you manage to be all silly and sage, frivolous and deep simultaneously. I'm sorry that it was a frustrating weekend, in spite of all the good things. I guess the post-deadline lull is naturally going to be the time for all that under-the-surface angst to start rising...

Drewzel said...

I like this post. A lot. I love the images and descriptions of fun things, and then how you say, but it wasn't perfect. That's real. We're all human. xx Thanks.

CurlyPops said...

Even though everything didn't quite go as planned, it seems that you managed to get heaps done!
You know I'm going to have mental flashes of naked men in trenchcoats, jumping on trampolines all day now.

Kirsty said...

Beautiful post. The right answer to everything sounds like a chapter I should read! "Looking out for each other"...this is something I always try to keep forefront in my mind. xx

beck said...

Sounds like a trying weekend, even thoguh there were some fun moments too. Family life is so up and down & I think it's an ongoing thing trying to keep the balance. My kids seem to be tired and niggly at the moment, I blame that damn dls/return to school bizzo. Keep breathing, be kind to yourself & maybe you & the fella need to go out & have some time together too. Listen to me, all Agony Aunt style!
hope you are having some sunshine today xo

Sandrine said...

Perfect...(Sigh) Maybe I should read your chapter too!Hope you have a nice/nicer/quieter? week ahead!

Kylie said...

I do know exactly what you mean Tania... I have two pre-teens so that kind of thing happens all the time these days ;) The thing is though, is actually a really good thing. It's one of the best lessons they can learn - that everyone loses their temper; that you don't have all the answers all the time; that we all make mistakes... The best lesson comes from where we take it from there. If I had a cent for every time I've apologised to my girls...! We talk it over and explain where we were coming from or why we were feeling on edge etc. It creates understanding of context and shades of grey. Kids tend to look at the world in absolutes and black + white, so learning the shades of grey is really important I think. Don't be too hard on yourself - talking is always the answer. Take care :) Kylie x

One Flew Over said...

It sounds that you did have (despite the scratchy parts) a good weekend! I have slowly come around to the idea that where there are kids...weekends will always be a little up and down.

I ADORE...just ADORE that kimono top and do you realise that this was the fabric I had to show restraint with on Thursday night!?! Just LOVE that fabric...sweet as a button...mini M&E that is!

Mama Mogantosh said...

Oh, this post had everything for me: it was funny, interesting and honest. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Especially liked the theoretical perfection-busting - when you add up the good moments and add a few sweet pictures, it's easy to leave out the stuff that isn't so shiny-blog-happy.

So with all that perfect craftiness and intense relationshippy stuff going on, it must have been a bit tiring! Hope you get some chilled out moments this week.

x

Cath from chunkychooky said...

I am impressed that after a busy weeekend you gave the latin family name of the sea urchin. Who knew?!

Karen said...

I'd love to know what that chapter contains too!!
Sorry your weekend was not as idyllic as it looks.
Sounds like you were constructive in many ways though.
Hope the next one is better for you.

Umatji said...

Oh you wonderful thing. A teaspoonful of honesty is worth ten buckets of gloss. Thankyou.

craftschmaft said...

The good thing about weekends is taht there's always another one just around the corner. Next Saturday morning you really should try the nudist trampolining. I find that always clears the air (or at least the immediate area).

FWOG. A blog. By Fi and Wendy. said...

T
No work deadline... how did you manage to sneak that one through? I imagine by juggling it perfectly as you always do. (Well, maybe apart from those exceptional times when there is a resounding thunk of juggling balls hitting the ground.)

Best of luck with your search for a trenchcoat for your next Shine moment.
W

Leonie Guld said...

perfection! x

Bek said...

You are word master. I love this honest post. I hope you feel more at peace having written it.

Clair said...

Hopefully, it will be the happy memories that you look back on x

Cute as Buttons said...

Had some of those conversations myself over the weekend. Would you mind posting a brief synopsis once you have the right answers sorted? I could see it being very handy in my present circumstances. Lisa.

thea said...

hehehehehehe got me all giggly with your shine leanings ;)

thea.
xx

Margaret said...

v. funny post, had me laughing into my coffee, bravo! M

pennygj said...

I popped in, read your post and popped out again, and then thought, 'hang on, people do that on my blog and never stop to say hello', so here I am, doing that thing. Your post is thought provoking because so often blogs give the impression of idyllic lives and they're not, they are real lives, and you have just reminded us of that. Hope the new week has brought serenity, x

Andi said...

If only our loved ones would behave in accordance with our emotions and expectations? Ha!!

katiecrackernuts said...

I know exactly how you feel. A similar scenario in our household a couple of weekends ago. It should have been a lovely evening - short story is that it went to pot. Hoping for better weekends ahead of us all.

Liesl (Hoppo Bumpo) said...

I love so many things about this post, Mrs M&E. Everything looks beautiful; almost idyllic ... but you've kept it real.

PS. I should think I would very much like to know The Right Answer To Everything.

--ginger. said...

I've like sitting with this post. Nice and honest. Good work being a truth teller. Love the X bookmark. So just right.

kellyi said...

I have whole weeks like that. My neighbour thinks I am crazy because when it gets to much, I go and shout at the bottom of the garden.

I have also phoned my hubby to shout for help, knowing he cannot do any thing when he is over 100 miles away.

I did this when the dog attacked the rabbit. He was in a really important meeting and he had me screaming "whatdoidothebloodydoghastherabbithangingoutofhismouthandthekidsarescreamingohgodit'sisstillaliveaaaargh!"

Makes you feel better about your minor weekend hiccup, hopefully xoxo.

Megan.K. said...

Oh I wish I could read that chapter too! Wouldn't it be wonderful if we really could know all the right answers?! (apparently I only know the very wrong ones according to my 13-yr-old! Who woulda thunk it after me having spent so many years on the planet...) Love the way you describe it all, Tania. The good, the bad, the ugly and the sublime. I guess that's what relationships are made of...