Saturday, August 20, 2011

The Week and Thinking ‘Yes’



Despite appearances, I have not spent the last week with my nose in a book, whipping up a pair of incredibly-hard-to-photograph armwarmers. The actuality, is that I have completed the last bit of a pair of armwarmers in fits and starts – sometimes while walking and without consulting a pattern enough. From the start, I have planned to hand-gesture emphatically while wearing them. No one shall notice mistakes for the blur.



A recommendation from a lady well qualified to know such stuff, the latest read is a veritable joy and is indulged nightly, while waiting for sleep. Covered in beautiful Orla Kiely, (I can’t help but judge such things), last night was not the first, when I wafted off wearing a small smile.

Things continue to be busy and not for the first time, I realise how important these snippets of my time and my space are. A row there, a page here and for a little while it’s ok that the work/life balance is a bit nutty.



Something else that has been glaringly obvious this week, are the pros and cons of the self-employed, work-from-home scenario. The two eldest are off at school but the Small is mostly always at home. I’m yet to perfect the art of negotiating deadlines with a client one minute, then seamlessly morphing into earthmother, snack-preparing, reading-to-the-four-year-old, the very next (and then back again). It’s hard to plan work efficiently and then ‘get’ that being the sort of Mum my kids need, is often not about anything efficient.



Yesterday, I read this post. Mrs Smith has the most excellent timing. Lately, with my head caught up in To Do lists and Who Does What When schedules, I have been forgetting to say yes. Even though instinctively I know I need to do just that, I’ve been thinking a lot of no.

Grown up and forty, I still write reminders on my hand (sigh)...



I glanced at said hand, when the Small asked me to stop cleaning and come outside and watch the diggers doing roadwork. While we were out there, we found some wild bluebells in our garden and I said Of course we can pick them for the kitchen table And since the presence of bluebells...



...indicates the presence of magical creatures, of course I would love to help hunt for a bog baby (or snail) or two...



Even in those few minutes, such a lot of good stuff came from thinking yes.

This morning, as another weekend dawns, there is a new YES! scrawled on my hand.

35 comments:

mrs smith said...

Wow! Beautiful post. Yes is on my hand too now. After waking up a grumpy mumsy I am now excited to see where the yes is going to take us today. X

Posie Patchwork said...

LOVE IT!! I just put everything other than husband, children & housewifery on hold, just so i can do exactly this, say 'yes'. Working from home was ace for me when i had 4 under 5, but now my baby is 7.5, i'm totally loving the reward that is turning my business back into hobby, the pressure to 'perform' & earn an income has lifted as my husband has been promoted (this is a big deal in the Army) & now i am saying "yes" to Questacon after school, "yes" to the playground after school & "yes" to fun on the weekends, i'm loving it, i feel a million dollars already, love Posie

Posie Patchwork said...

Oh & "yes" to a long leisurely bath, haven't done that for ages, love Posie

Jessi said...

ohhhh "YES" i like it

Lola Nova said...

Yes, the very thing...timing you say? I too write things on my hands, jump up from my work to retrieve a chicken from the bathtub because apparently my 'No Chooks Inside' rule is too vague, and then stopping briefly to write down a verse of a song called "Hard Headed Boy" that I'm working on.

And then last night, needing to make a tight deadline, about to turn monster mommy when I heard the door of my girl's room open for the 32nd time...she came to me, grabbed my hand and said, "Dance with me mama!"
For the next 30 minutes we danced with wild abandon, did moves never before seen, and laughed so hard we fell down. Yup, that's mighty good stuff!

Cath @ chunkychooky said...

I know the juggle and I know time is going fast. I am juggling, a job, a business from home and the parenting and wifeing... she starts school in 6 months and I don't want to waste any time, I have just moved the computer out of the kitchen so i don't find myself drawn to it. I have to go into the study/sewing room now to use it so I am more aware of the time I do. Trying to say yes more and trying to say ok right now too, as opposed to hold on just let me finish this. Timely post.

rachelmp said...

I've worked from home for almost 11 years for the company I work (half time) for while juggling kids. The joys of being able to stop and say yes.

Fer said...

Yes, I thought Mrs Smith's post was well timed too - especially when all I seem to be doing lately is saying 'no' to a toddler.

The armwarmers are perfect, flaws and all. ♥

A Peppermint Penguin said...

tattoo?

and on the other hand....

Lila said...

Lovely post, Yes is a new project for me I think it will be an interesting change.

mel @ loved said...

Well done! And thanks for the reminder, I MUST learn to say 'yes' way more...x

grrl + dog said...

I did not know bluebells indicate the presence of

fairies.

hmm.. must find some..

Loz and Dinny said...

Working from home is indeed a juggle ... there is no remedy, just natty lycra suits to accompany the circus act ...that Mrs Smith is a gooden for getting the cogs turning in a new direction, non? or rather, oui.

Emily said...

Such a timely reminder! Thank you! And please let us know if you ever do find a bog baby! That is one of our favorite books; the illustrations are amazing, aren't they?

rskaggs said...

I'm going for the sharpie marker now so maybe the "yes" will last a few days! Thanks for the reminder!

Kirsty said...

love it. Yes. writing it now.

Amanda said...

I love the arm warmers, some things are very hard to photograph but I love what I see.

Flaming Nora said...

Oh blimey don't get me started on the perils of self employment vs motherhood. We are in the middle of our long summer break over here and people always look at me as if i'm insane when I say I hate it. They think i'm being a bad mother because I don't want to spend time with my kids. If only July August and September are the busiest time of the year for me. Yet the kids want and need a good holiday. i have so many wonderful memories from my summer breaks as a child. I struggle constantly how to do the same thing for my children whist working flat out and trying not to tear my self in two. Not an easy one. If you find a solution do let me in on the secret!

CC said...

Thank you for the reminder. It's too easy to get into that downward spiral of frustration/aggravation when you are outnumbered at home by small children. I spend a large part of my day saying "no". It is good for everyone when you can day "yes" instead (within reason)' even if it seems harder. Last week I managed to drag everyone out of the house in the freezing cold for a walk. The kids had a great time stomping in mud and puddles. It sounds small but it felt good to just say "yes" for a change. I need to remember to do it more often.

heather said...

woohoo. this grown up still writes reminders on her hands and arms too. occasionally loving one so much i think a tattoo would do me well. i loved mrs. smiths words so much. what have i said yes to lately??? anything??????? keeping a caught garden snake for a night. that was lovely. we just couldn't feed him properly, so it was just for a night, but that was still a yes. adding more honey to the smoothie today. i could do more though. and i will now.

Jenny from Ohjoh said...

I love your "yessing". Far too many no's here so will try to embrace the yes here too.

Madeline said...

We do love a good "yes" day around here. :)

Jodie said...

That juggle is so hard and so looong. From here you look like you do an awesome job my dear.

Mama of 2 boys said...

Such a beautiful post Tania. I find it hard enough to do the juggle with 2 part time days 'out' of the home. There is always something to catch up on during our at home days. I think you're incredible for doing it all within the home. Arm warmers are amazing! What a fab idea, I can think of many occasions I'd be donning those beauties :o) xo

trudi@maudeandme said...

I am guilty of saying "in a minute" when I should be saying "yes" and doing it right there and then. I guess it's the right balance of having "me" time and "us" time, and saying "yes darling I would love to play another game of snap!"

Kylie said...

It's so true... I'm always forgetting the power of yes. Thanks for another great post Tania :) Kx

Nikki said...

Yep - I know that juggle (and the writing on hand thing).. and I think you need to show me how to do that yes business.

june at noon said...

I'm vacillating between guilt and inspiration now. I say "no" or "just a minute" way, way too often, and I always feel guilty, yet I still do it. Thanks for the reminder to say "yes." (Also nice to see so many others say they have the same struggle.)

UpsideDown Kate said...

Such a wonderful reminder! The first thing my mother said upon arrival of our first, "Say yes as often as you can. You'll have plenty of time to say no." It's easy to forget that with all the day to day that must be done.

Good for you for reminding yourself.

Flaming Nora said...

I took on board this idea, and spent today saying a lot more "Yes". Although I didn't get as much done it was a much better day than those that have come before recently! Good advice. Thanks.

Sandrine said...

Yes it is not so easy to yes I agree :) But thanks for the reminder! But YES I love your cable knitting my dear:) xx

tea with lucy said...

oh yes. we need a big dose of yes around here. i used to do a whole lot more yes, but lately it's been more "when i've finished . . . . "

Stomper Girl said...

I know it's crazy but I love that you are relegating work to lower importance than hanging with the baby. They're only little for such a short time, and she'll be off at school before you know it. Keep saying yes and finding bluebells, you splendid breadwinning earthmother you.

Sally said...

Yes! I hear you :)

ally said...

yes, yes and yes
especially to hunting for bog babies